“Well? What did you expect would happen?”
That’s my mom’s voice. I cannot believe you can’t actually HEAR her because I can, like nails on a blackboard. I grew up thinking this woman KNEW everything that was going to happen ALL the time. I’d make a series of choices (as we all do) and it wouldn’t turn out well. I’d be hit with, “Well? What did you expect would happen?”
I didn’t expect THAT would happen. I can say that was true 100% of the time.
Why didn’t she tell me, “If you do that, THIS will happen”? But she didn’t. Maybe she knew, maybe she didn’t, maybe it was her way of teaching me to look ahead to the consequences, maybe it was her way of making me feel fearful and stupid. I have no idea.
But just that word, “expect,” is enough to trigger that voice inside my head. Shudder.
*Eminem “My Mom”
“Summer is the season of inferior sledding” - Inuit proverb 
I would not be surprised if your mom and my mom were sisters from another mom. Always made me feel so incompetent. Which carried over into my adult life. It is such a struggle for me…
It’s a struggle for me, too. I think it’s partly why I always feel not quite, in her words, “Up to snuff.” I feel like a failure no matter what I do. It’s a constant battle. Grrrrrrr…..
Exactly.
Garry has HIS mom in his head, too. Mine wasn’t in my face enough for that. She was more the distant one. Maybe it was just as well.
My mom was a micro-manager. In fact, she reminds me of our president. She didn’t know what was going on but she took aggressive action anyway.
Mom’s ( Parent’s ) have a LOT to answer for….
But then again so do we – Right? 🙂
Some mom’s are worse than others though!
And of course there is always the old favourite…. “Mom’s Always Know Best!” (Eye-roll).
love